Hello Everyone, in this entry I’ll be talking about a class of cakes that I make so often and a lot of my friends don't really understand what occasion they are made for: THE NIGERIAN TRADITIONAL WEDDING! 

 

We all know what part of the world Nigeria is and its repute: good or WORST!  I really hate to dwell on the negativity that the world has come to associate with Nigerians.  Like most peoples, there are some rotten eggs and some "viable" ones, so we’ll only be minding the business here:  Nigerians are a people of truly rich, diversified culture.   Imagine a space of just about 356+ thousand square miles with over 250 languages, #thisiswhatyoucallrich!  There are a number of aspects of culture that run common with most of these small tribes, like "giving in marriage".  With Nigerians, the ultimate marriage ceremony is the church/mosque marriage but each requires parental consent and the TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE is clearly the parental consent these religious ceremonies need.

THE NIGERIAN TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE  is a very rich medium to large sized ceremony where the parents give away their daughter to her groom, fulfilling all traditional rites.  From the early days, it has added so much decorum and color, beyond just paying and receiving DOWRY (a certain cash or kind payment required by the Bride’s family for giving their daughter away in marriage).  Hahaha!  This makes me laugh cos 17 years ago, my parents requested just 116 Nigerian Naira from my husband for my bride price:  Mathematicians, help convert to dollars:  116/150 x 1 US dollar.  Hahahahaha!  It’s less than a dollar, people!  And I’m working overtime hours by now, still bearing children in my 40s.   I hope my husband’s reading this and understands what I mean when I say the dowry’s expired and I need a “second marriage ceremony” in which the bride price will be determined and received by me!

THE CEREMONY:  The Nigerian traditional marriage typically holds in the Bride’s home (living room) at any time of the day.  Generally, the Bride’s family plays host.  They fete the groom and his family in a ceremony filled with so much playful pomp and pageantry.  Well ahead of the event day a family to family introduction would have taken place, where the groom’s family is given a list of items to purchase for the Traditional Marriage ceremony. THE LIST is below for your viewing.

On the day of the ceremony, the family of the groom announces their arrival with drumming, singing and dancing and are met at the gates by the wives in the bride’s family. 

One fun thing about this ceremony is that any group of family members is allowed to obtain cash from the groom and his family.  The groom usually goes prepared and doles out cash like “no man’s business”.  The ceremony starts with the groom's family requesting to  see the bride’s parents and  extended family.  They present the groom to the bride's family all prostrated on the floor with his friends and family. They then request for the bride. 

The bride’s family checks off their bride’s list of items.  They receive the bride price (dowry) and prepare to present the bride.  Some cultures present other girls, dressed and veiled like a bride. The groom is expected to pick his bride.  The families say prayers for the new couple and the real partying begins.  

 There is usually  Lots of foods, drinks and dancing and finally the move. The bride’s belongings are packed up in a car and moved to the groom’s house.

 

How feasible it is, is usually determined by the new couple. (Did you notice Tosin's Shoes?, Tres Chic!)

THE CAKE:  Sometimes very detailed, usually a showpiece of an aspect of the ceremony:  suitcases, a briefcase of cash, a basket of fruits, a building,  jewelry cases, expensive cars, expensive lace or  George wrappers, jewelry, beads.   Tosin's cake was made to look like 4 folded expensive George wrappers.  The Cakes were Butter and Red Velvet Flavors.

 

Below is my Traditional wedding 17 years ago showing me dressed in “Bini" traditional bridal beaded velvet and very expensive coral beads. 

Many thanks to the couple here, Mr. and Mrs. Addeh who gave their pictures for the blog, and to Tmaj Photography: I have carefully picked out the following links to help you view pictures of Nigerian traditional weddings, for ideas for planning yours.  Some of these have more pictures on their Face book  pages so you may need to start a Face book page to be able to view them. Please leave a comment to add to or make corrections to the ceremony and the list, the readers and I will appreciate that. Enjoy!

TMAJ Photography
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Traditional Weddings (Edo)
Ihuoma's Nigerian-Traditional-wedding pins on Pintrest
Wedding Digest Naija
African Weddings Magazine
Nigerian Weddings

 

The Nigerian Traditional Wedding Bride's List

Bible/Religious Book

Dowry: amount determined by tribal law and customs

Cash gifts for family members

tubers of XL Yams

Pieces XL smoked fish

Smoked wild catch meats

Pieces Kolanuts

Pieces Alligator Peppers

Pieces Bitter Kola

Basket of assorted fruits

1 jar honey in a crystal decanter

1 large crystal dish of sugar

1 large crystal dish of salt

Kegs or calabashes of Palm wine

Assorted drinks

1 live she-goat

Palm Oil

1 Umbrella

A Sewing Machine

1 Suit Case for the bride, filled with the following:

2 pairs of shoes

2 handbags or clutch purses to match

2 head ties

1 Gold Wrist watch

Traditional Wrappers:  Lace, George, Hollandais Wax Prints, African Prints

Matching blouses for the wrappers

Jewelry, genuine Coral beads

Other clothes: Dresses, Skirts, Pants etc

My first entry is a cake I made for my close friend ID!   ID turned 50 recently.  Well, ID is my OLDER friend, just incase you were thinking I'm about 50, hahaha!  ID has been my friend since 1991.  (We met at Speedwriting Secretarial College in Lagos where I obtained my Secretarial Diploma while waiting to get a job after college.  She was already working at a computer firm.  Since then she's been my friend and quite oddly, we've never had a quarrel, ever!  Its a very respectful friendship). 

ID's celebration was unique in the sense she had closed and open parties.  Celebration started with family and very close friends the night before to usher in her 50th year.  In the morning of her birthday, she had a breakfast fellowship at home for church friends and family and then an all night party in a banquet hall.  For her breakfast, we made a sweet breakfast table. 

 

For her night party, ID wanted her cake to be a highlight of the occasion.  When we chose her cake, I was a bit skeptical, but I geared up to take the plunge. We baked 5 double layer cakes and hung 3 of them on a pedestal stand to dangle upside-down - this cake style is called the CHANDELIER CAKE!  Now, that is some technique that WOWs any crowd!  The cake flavors were Orange and Almond, Mocha Swirl, Butter, Chocolate Marble and rich fruit Cake.  Geometric Patterns are very modern for cakes so we made two sizes of gold rings and decked the cakes with them.  Beautiful!  Very, very ID! Enjoy!

 

 

Hi Everyone, my name is Ehi!  I'm a wife, a mom of 4 and an ardent baking and cake decoration lover.  I've heard many say I have the eye for aesthetics. I believe every cake must be the highlight in any event. Baking and Cake decoration is veeeery tasking, specialist work.  There's not so many reasons for anyone to keep up with it except for loving it. I looooooove my work from start to finish.  (I love the look on the faces of my friends when they see their cakes the first time).   I love to create cakes with an impression: cakes with a voice.   Your cake should imprint an impression on your guests! 

I decided to start this blog on the advice of one of my younger friends Nkem Morah (Yaaaaaaay!  Everyone needs a younger friend to spice up their lives, seriously).  Nkem and I started to talk about the blog sometime in 2011.  We decided I needed a more interactive site where I could reach my friends with both beautiful cake pictures and a framework of useful resources for their parties.  I want to share just about anything about cakes, desserts and other foods as well as meddle with every aspect of party hospitality.  So I went on a long search for blog designers.  By the help of God, I stumbled onto some "out-of-this-world" designers: www.designerblogs.com and got a talented designer to sign me on.  Lauren Nelson and I worked excellently together even though we were both pregnant with babies at that time.  Laura was a few 2-3 months ahead of me.  She worked closely and tirelessly with me to create the beautiful blog you now see.  Laura launched the blog in May 2012.  With so much going with me including the birth of my Baby Lael, I delayed work on it until now: June 2013!

I'm inviting everyone to feel free to add your comments and suggestions as you read, pin my pictures and interact with Ehi's Cakes on Facebook.  I'll get out as much as I know that'll help make your party go off-the-chain #Weareboomingout #weareinittostay!